Funeral Readings, Writings and Eulogies

Funeral Readings

There are many types of funerals that are held all over the world today. The most common in North America are celebrations of life and religious services. Both of these types of funerals have many commonalities. There is almost always a church service or a service in the Chapel at the funeral home. It is during this time that either members of the family in attendance will speak about the deceased or a religious figure such as a Priest, a Nun, or a Minister will speak on behalf of the family. Some services will combine the two with some readings or original thoughts from the family as well as some more scripted type reading from a religious figure.

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A time may come in your life when you are called upon by family or friends to prepare and/or deliver a Eulogy, or you may simply feel compelled to say something about a loved one without being asked. A eulogy by definition is a speech or writing in praise of a person living or dead, although the term is normally reserved for a speech praising the life of a person who is recently deceased. There are several ways to prepare a eulogy, but the best eulogies are the heartfelt stories told by the people who were closest to the departed. A eulogy can be prepared anyway that you are most comfortable but there are some ways that are easier than others. A chronological listing of events with personal stories and favorite memories mixed in is usually the easiest to prepare for a person who has lived a long life before passing. A simple collection of personal memories is normally easier when the deceased passed away at a young age.

Regardless of how you prepare your eulogy it will be the personal touches that stick in the memories of the people in attendance. Standing in front of a large or small group of people who are all mourning the loss of the person you are about to begin talking about can be a daunting task. Something to remember when you are possibly getting scared about doing your reading is that the people who are at this funeral with you are also grieving and are very appreciative of the fact that you have decided to honor their loved one with your kind words. This is the perfect time to tell the world how great the departed has been and all of the good things he or she did with and for you. This is not the time however to mention the fact that he or she might have not paid back money that had been borrowed or similar indiscretions. Try to keep it positive.

Speeches by family members or close friends at funerals are usually kept to 3 minutes or less for several reasons. The largest reasons being the fact that speaking at a funeral is not the easiest thing a person can do when they were close to the deceased, as well after a short time the speaker will likely become overwhelmed with grief when talking about their personal memories of the deceased. This is very common and is definitely acceptable. Do not turn down the chance to speak at your loved ones funeral simply because you are afraid you might not be able to do so without crying. Nine times out of 10 the family members who speak at a funeral will not do so without shedding tears.

Speeches by religious figures at funerals are normally considerably longer than those of the family members. This is because the religious figure has done this several times, possibly even several times in that month. Also they normally do not take the same amount of time or care in preparing their speech. Often times the same passages are read from their religious books and similar stories are told simply replacing the name in the original story with that of the departed. Having a religious figure deliver a sermon at your loved ones funeral is a good option to fill extra time between loved ones speaking, or in the event of the attendees being too distraught to speak for themselves. In some cases a Funeral Director might volunteer to read speeches that were prepared by family members when those people are not able to read them themselves. This too is a viable option and normally does not change the price of your service. Having a third party such as a religious figure or a Funeral Director assist with readings is fairly common practice when the departed is a child or young adult because the family members are normally more visibly shaken in these situations, although they are also acceptable in any other situation as well. If you are concerned about speaking yourself or you fear that you may not get enough volunteers from your family or the from the deceased persons social circle, you might chose to ask your Funeral Director if they would mind reading some of your thoughts.